Thane couples are all for 'monthsaries'

Couples these days are busy and how! They are doing all it takes to keep the sparks of romance alive in their relationships. Psychologists say that when both the partners have demanding schedules, they tend to drift apart in the relationship. They often give priority to their work than spend quality time together, However, most couples are now working their way around it, with some celebrating monthsaries — which means that they spend time together to commemorate one special day in their relationship.

The love gratification syndrome

Psychologist Seema Hingoranny says, "This is called the love gratification syndrome. I have noticed this trend in many young couples. There is this growing need to constantly remind each other that they are in a relationship. It is like a monthly reminder, 'Hey we are together'."

Celebrating togetherness every month

Sudhir Sahani, who works with a private firm and is a resident of Hiranandani Gardens, says, "My fiancee and I celebrate our ring ceremony day, every month. She is an entrepreneur and her work timings, like mine, are erratic. We got engaged last year and in a few months are going to get married. This long courtship period has been a great experience, which I feel has to do a lot with our decision to celebrate monthsaries." Sudhir and his fiancee make it point to squeeze out time from their busy schedules to meet up once a month and plan to stick to it, even after their marriage.

A day to have fun

Mihika and Rajvir Singh, who have been dating each other for the last six months, have been celebrating monthsaries. "This just marks it as a day to have fun. It's an unwritten rule between us that the day is to celebrate, be together and go all out on that one day. We both work hard, so this day of 'no work and all fun' means a lot," says Mihika.

If you love someone, why not show it?

To the smart-phone wielding, social networking generation, flaunting one's relationship means a lot to them. Says Seema, "There are couples who have no qualms about showing off their relationship to the world and celebrating every month. They reason, "If you love each other, why not show it? For some, it gives them an opportunity to express their feelings."

An excuse to do something for each other

Not all couples do it for their online status updates. Simit and Devanshi Sharma from Ovala, Ghodbunder Road say, "We have been married for 14 years, and we celebrate monthsaries too. Not in a big way, just a quiet 'us' time together. It is a very personal thing, maybe a dinner out, or even just a long drive somewhere. It does add to our relationship."

The 'all-heart' is too OTT

Not everyone understands the 'all heart' syndrome and find it to be over-the-top (OTT). Sulabha Patil, from Wagle Estate, mother of two teenaged college-going boys, says, "I do not understand this need to celebrate an anniversary every month. It is supposed to be an annual thing. There is a lot of insecurity in relationships these days and that is what leads to these monthsaries." Anantha Iyer, a 30-year-old from Vasant Vihar adds, "I feel the concept of monthsaries is a huge waste of time. I have had girl friends, who feel the same way. If I ever get married I will do away with even the anniversaries because I am sure my partner and I would not need one day to 'feel special' or 'in-love'."

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